“Kathy says”

My sister Kathy cooking with one of her five grandchildren.
“This is fun, grammy! I love having my own apron, bowl and dough.”

Brianna, 2, is cooking with her Grandma,  my sister Kathy, who is 12 years older than me. Kathy taught me so much about raising children and living with them.     

 Kathy says the sure-cure for boredom is easy. When a child says, “I’m bored,”  it’s easy to solve their lack of creativity. Say, “The living room needs vacuuming.” or “Here’s a squirt bottle to clean the bathroom.” 

Because of this miraculous cure, my children learned to tap into their inner resources and solve their boredom by finding something that interested them, or feel the boredom for a while until they were motivated to take action. 

I was always willing to support their quests, while not taking the responsibility to entertain them.   

Kathy is the second oldest of my parents’ nine children and served as the assistant mother. I’m the eighth in the family.  When children are around Kathy instinctively knows how to include them. She is often willing to take the time to give them their own bowl of pie crust and apron. 

 Kathy was/is like my second mother. Every young mother needs someone like Kathy to turn to when facing myriad challenges of raising children. Kathy unabashedly loves Martha Stewart, and can cook, decorate, sew and garden as well as Martha, if not better. Kudos to mothers, sisters and grandmas like Kathy.

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5 Comments on ““Kathy says””

  1. Sean O'Connor Says:

    I read the Helicopter parent chapter this morning and used what I learned right away. Bree dropped a toy animal under the couch… When she couldn’t reach it, she said “Help, Please.” Of course I am delighted that my 2 year old is already using “Please” as part of her regular vocabulary, so this magic word is enough to spring me into action. BUT this time, instead of solving her problem for her by reaching under the couch and grabbing the animal, I helped her solve her own problem by showing her how to make a ‘hook’ out of pieces of her wooden train track to retrieve the item on her own. When she manipulated the animal out from under the couch (with training) I cheered and asked “How do you feel?” The big smile on her accomplished face was the answer…

  2. suzicate Says:

    I am the youngest of six. Seems like the oldest did do a lot of the parenting work, but the funny thing is that I turned out to be the Martha Stewart and she is the furthest she can be from it!

  3. casey w Says:

    Teaching your kid how to solve his/her problems is going to go a long way!!! I’ve found the hardest type of people to manage are those who, when confronted with a problem, just stop. They don’t know how to move on. If only they had a dad like you!

  4. fracas Says:

    I’ve often used that line. It’s amazing how when offered the option to vacuum or weed, they seem to find an alternate way to alleviate their boredom. 😉

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