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Self-discipline comes in many packages

May 2, 2011
Chores develop self-discipline in children which is useful in life for learning musical instruments, school, work, love, life, savings, self-restraint and more. Chores are one of the most important gifts you can give your child. Use family meetings, according to "Alfred Adler" and "Jane Nelsen" to figure out who does what chore. Jobs around the house will teach your child more than you think and set her up for lifelong success. Parenting is all about being consistent and following through. Doing chores is all about being consistent and following through.
Learning an instrument requires self-discipline, learned through chores.

Showing up when you don’t feel like it is required many places in life, like work, school, relationships, exercise, and learning a new skill. Self-discipline is pretty much essential.

A longitudinal study — meaning the subjects were followed up on over a long period of 20 years — showed that the young people who did chores when they were 4 years old did better later than peers in the same study who had no chores, according to Dr. Marty Rossmann, professor emeritus of the University of Minnesota.

The kids don’t have to get up at dawn to milk the cows, but such discipline instills a life-long ability to make good decisions, according to an in-depth study done on children from age 3 until their mid-20s.

Kids learn responsibility, competence, self-reliance and self-worth that sticks for life, says Dr. Rossmann. She found the young adults who had done chores were better adjusted and more successful than non-chore-doing peers in the study.

This kind of long-term research and correlations are hard to come by in psychology. The research even more convincing because the original data by Diana Baumrind analyzed parenting styles — authoritarian, permissive and authoritative. So the research contained no biases about chores and long-term success in life.

The real gem in this study is that the earlier the kids start doing chores, the more it is pricelessly embedded in their psyche. My kids started pushing laundry into the dryer and shoving around a mop before they could talk. Next, they emptied wastebaskets from the bedrooms, and sorted the silverware from the dishwasher — an excellent pre-reading skill of learning to distinguish differences. Their chores got more complex a they got older.

Yes, it’s easier to do the chores yourself. Yes, it will get done faster and better if you do it. Yes, you’re hurting your kids in the long run if you do everything for them. It creates a monster called entitlement.