Once a week I fill the tank of my car with gas.
Once a month it seems to need something bigger like an oil change, tire rotation or inspection. A few times a year it needs something really big like a brake job, tuneup or new tires.
I regularly spend time and money on preventative car maintenance because I depend on it.
What if I treated my life partner the same way? Call it preventative maintenance to keep everything lubricated and running smoothly. Don’t wait until it breaks down on the New Jersey Turnpike at midnight.
Half of all children will experience a divorce by the time they graduate from high school. At my youngest daughter’s college orientation she was advised to be prepared for the possibility that our marriage might break up.
Even though divorce is an acceptable rite-of-passage in our culture, I’m still with my “starter” husband of nearly 30 years. We started very young and stuck with it out of stubbornness and necessity. Two adults have a better chance against four children than one-versus-four.
We needed each other. We maintained our relationship like we took care of our cars and our children — frequently and carefully.
What if every week when you filled up your car you gave your mate a compliment or did something for him/her without being asked.
What if every month when the car needed something bigger, you set a date and went out without the children? It could be as simple as taking a walk, going to a coffee shop or shopping for underwear. Hmmm, that has possibilities.
At least once a year, take the extra time and effort to go away alone together. There are all kinds of ways to have frugal fun and trade child care with friends. The key point is to go away for one night or more alone.
Rekindle the spark and change the spark plugs to get 300,000 miles on that marriage. It’s the best investment in your family.